If your like me, you cancel your plans on the regular due to finding yourself crying in your closet after having an absolute melt down because you have nothing to wear. And of course your hair just isn’t sitting right because it KNOWS you have nothing to wear!!
This was happening to me way to often. After you have a baby, it’s hard enough to like the way you look. It’s like giving birth to that baby effects every single part of your body. You’ll even start to resent your hair colour after giving birth ( yes we all know birthing a human doesn’t change the colour of your hair ) but believe me you’ll actually start to convince yourself it did. And you’ll hate it. You’ll want this drastic fresh change because you will talk yourself into the fact you’ll probably feel thinner if you colour your hair pink.
I just gave myself time.
When we came home I was sore. I had stitches across my belly. And I was trying to figure out who the hell let me out of the hospital unsupervised with a newborn baby. I lived in nothing but pyjamas and my husbands clothes. And there is nothing wrong with that! If we did have to go somewhere I wore fitness clothes that I bought from Kmart for next to nothing because I knew I wouldn’t be in them forever. It took me around a year to feel comfortable again. I just focused on being a mum. Not becoming skinny. Still to this day with an almost 2 year old. I’ve never worked out.
I waited till I was happy to shop.
I don’t dare step foot in a shop for clothes if I’m feeling crappy. Because I’ll most likely try on something that’s to small and I’ll end up feeling like I’m really fat and ugly. I waited until I could look at myself in the mirror wearing my undies and think wow I look good for birthing a human. And even now if I’m having a day, I look down at that tiny human and I feel so proud that my body did that!! And once I started really accepting and loving myself. I started to shop for a few things.
I’ve changed my mind set to quality over quantity!
Now the first thing I do if I see a piece of clothing I love is feel the fabric before I bother taking it off the wrack! I see if it’s stretchy, some pieces of clothing will already be a little bally on the wrack and I know it’s not even worth it because I’ll never be able to even wash it.
I think about every single season.
I was buying dresses in winter last year. You’ll find them cheaper in the off season and once summer actually comes along you’ll feel super organised.
I bought something every single week.
As the hustle and bustle of life passes us by, and we’re busy being mums and wives. $13 coming out of your bank over a week you will not notice. But you’ll be happy to stare at the new dress hanging in your wardrobe! This saves having to spend a couple of hundred to get some things when the weather changes all at once!
I bought second hand!
While I was doing this I browsed 𝗲𝗯𝗮𝘆 for hours and hours every night. Yes it seems obsessive. But I was determined to only purchase pieces that I was absolutely in love with. You know that feeling you get when you see that top and you gasp for air and go running over to find your size? I waited for those feelings and then I would buy!! Cheap or not if it wasn’t making me excited it wasn’t going to hang in my wardrobe!
I thought about every single scenario!
We’re not your average party people! We rarely go anywhere BUT that didn’t stop me from choosing that outfit for a birthday party, or that special dress I got second hand for $12 I could one day wear to a wedding! I’m even now equipped to go camping for a week with the cute and warm flannel shirts I own!
I planned and shopped and bought this beautiful collection over around a year. I really allowed myself time to heal from having my daughter and I’m so happy I did. I deserved that. I now no longer stress about clothes! Ever! I have literally prepared myself for every single situation I could ever be in. If my husband called me right now and said we have to be at a ballroom party in 20 minutes I know I could pull together an outfit! I couldn’t tell you if my hair would know i had the outfit but at least I’d look great from the head down right?